{"id":990,"date":"2021-08-09T14:01:10","date_gmt":"2021-08-09T12:01:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/tydenikobydleni.cz\/?p=990"},"modified":"2021-08-09T14:01:11","modified_gmt":"2021-08-09T12:01:11","slug":"when-a-man-loves-a-woman","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/tydenikobydleni.cz\/?p=990","title":{"rendered":"WHEN A MAN LOVES A WOMAN"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

When a man loves a \u017eena. Zn\u00e1te tento film? Kr\u00e1sn\u00fd, \u017ee? Krom\u011b my\u0161lenky filmu pro m\u011b p\u011bkn\u00fd i prost\u0159ed\u00edm, kde se odehr\u00e1v\u00e1. Ulice m\u011bsta San Francisco, kter\u00e9 m\u00e1m velmi r\u00e1d, nejklikat\u011bj\u0161\u00ed ulice na sv\u011bt\u011b, most Golden Gate, star\u00e1 tramvaj \u010di kr\u00e1sn\u00e9 parky. Je\u0161t\u011b si chv\u00edli posn\u00edvam o cestov\u00e1n\u00ed, ale u\u017e si p\u0159eji sv\u011bt, ve kter\u00e9m se bude fungovat norm\u00e1ln\u011b.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P\u0159ed t\u00fddnem jsme s man\u017eelkou d\u00edvali jeden z jej\u00edch nejobl\u00edben\u011bj\u0161\u00edch film\u016f: Kdy\u017e mu\u017e miluje \u017eenu. Film m\u00e1 v\u00edce ne\u017e 20 let, v\u00edm to ur\u010dit\u011b, proto\u017ee tento film jsem j\u00ed daroval na dvd na V\u00e1noce velmi d\u00e1vno, mysl\u00edm, \u017ee je\u0161t\u011b jsme ani nebyli man\u017eel\u00e9. My\u0161lenka filmu je nad\u010dasov\u00e1. Rozd\u00edl je v tom, \u017ee p\u0159ed dvaceti lety se mi l\u00edbil n\u00e1zev filmu a ostatn\u00edmu jsem velmi nerozum\u011bl. Vlastn\u011b na sv\u016fj v\u011bk a emo\u010dn\u00ed „nevysp\u011blost“ rozum\u011bl a bral ho jako p\u011bkn\u00fd romantick\u00fd p\u0159\u00edb\u011bh s happyendem, p\u0159i kter\u00e9m ka\u017ed\u00fd p\u00e1r s bal\u00edkem popcornu str\u00e1v\u00ed hezk\u00fd ve\u010der.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dnes po v\u00edce ne\u017e 20-ti letech se d\u00edv\u00e1m na to \u00fapln\u011b jinak. My, mu\u017ei, se v dne\u0161n\u00ed dob\u011b stra\u0161n\u011b snadno vzd\u00e1v\u00e1me. N\u00e1val emoc\u00ed sv\u00fdch \u017een t\u011b\u017ece zvl\u00e1d\u00e1me a rad\u011bji ut\u00e9ci. Michael (Andy Garc\u00eda roli zahr\u00e1l bravurn\u011b) je mu\u017e, kter\u00fd uk\u00e1zal, \u017ee je mimo\u0159\u00e1dn\u011b d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9 uv\u011bdomit si, \u017ee kdy\u017e vztah jde dol\u016f vodou, t\u0159eba za\u010d\u00edt od sebe, p\u00e1trat po sv\u00e9m pod\u00edlu chyby a ne hledat rovnou probl\u00e9m v partnerce. Vztah tvo\u0159\u00ed dva, a tak jak spole\u010dn\u011b tvo\u0159\u00ed to kr\u00e1sn\u00e9, spolu kreuje i probl\u00e9my. Kdy\u017e vznikne probl\u00e9m, je t\u0159eba ho \u0159e\u0161it spole\u010dn\u011b a nevzdat to, pokud se probl\u00e9my nevy\u0159e\u0161\u00ed. I kdy\u017e \u0159e\u0161en\u00ed mohou b\u00fdt n\u011bkdy slo\u017eit\u00e9. Film popisuje kr\u00e1sn\u00e9 a st\u00e1le v\u00e1\u0161niv\u00e9 man\u017eelstv\u00ed, p\u011bknou rodinu a\u017e do momentu, kdy naplno propuknou alkoholick\u00e9 probl\u00e9my man\u017eelky Alice (Meg Ryan). V za\u010d\u00e1tc\u00edch svou z\u00e1vislost skr\u00fdv\u00e1, ale jak to p\u0159i z\u00e1vislostech prost\u011b b\u00fdv\u00e1, jednou to vyjde na povrch. Ona, tedy vlastn\u011b oni, se rozhodnou zabojovat s probl\u00e9mem a Alice odch\u00e1z\u00ed na protialkoholn\u00ed l\u00e9\u010den\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Z pohledu mu\u017ee to vypadalo tak, \u017ee v\u0161e bylo ide\u00e1lne- l\u00e1ska, sex, kr\u00e1sn\u00e9 d\u011bti, kr\u00e1sn\u00e1 a skv\u011bl\u00e1 man\u017eelka a p\u0159ece tu n\u011bco nebylo v po\u0159\u00e1dku. P\u0159ehnan\u00e1 p\u00e9\u010de a l\u00e1ska mu\u017ee, kter\u00e1 doslova „udus\u00ed“ cel\u00fd vztah. Je \u00fa\u017easn\u00e9 vid\u011bt, \u017ee i kdy\u017e je Michael p\u0159esv\u011bd\u010den, \u017ee j\u00ed d\u00e1v\u00e1 nejv\u011bt\u0161\u00ed l\u00e1sku, jak\u00e9 je schopen a vznikne probl\u00e9m, tak dok\u00e1\u017ee p\u0159ijmout realitu a pod\u00edvat se na to ze strany partnerky. P\u0159ineslo to uv\u011bdom\u011bn\u00ed si, \u017ee probl\u00e9mem je vlastn\u011b on. Obrovsk\u00e1 sebereflexe, jakou asi ani nezn\u00e1m u \u017e\u00e1dn\u00e9ho mu\u017ee a to v\u010detn\u011b sebe.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Film je pou\u010dn\u00fd i v tom, \u017ee ukazuje, jak\u00e9 je t\u011b\u017ek\u00e9 v\u011bci p\u0159ijmout, jak\u00e9 jsou a odstoupit od nich, aby je bylo vid\u011bt v cel\u00e9m obraze. Jak je cht\u00edt m\u00edt s\u00edlu zm\u011bnit to a hlavn\u011b zm\u011bnit sebe a sv\u016fj p\u0159\u00edstup. Pro m\u011b je to jeden z hrdin\u016f. S\u00e1m v\u00edm, kolik neshod u n\u00e1s doma vznik\u00e1 kv\u016fli mn\u011b a m\u00e9mu vid\u011bn\u00ed sv\u011bta a na\u0161eho vztahu a mnohdy se mi stane, \u017ee sebereflexi potla\u010d\u00ed moje ego. J\u00e1 vn\u00edm\u00e1m mu\u017ee v pozici hlavy rodiny jako sou\u010d\u00e1st dvojice, ne jako n\u011bkoho nad \u017eenou. Doba je jin\u00e1 a m\u00e1m pocit, \u017ee mnoho \u017een ani nedostane prostor na to, aby byly samy sebou. Zalo\u017een\u00ed rodiny, mate\u0159sk\u00e1 jedna, druh\u00e1, mo\u017en\u00e1 t\u0159et\u00ed a pak to u\u017e nabere monot\u00f3nn\u00ed sm\u011br. Mu\u017e se star\u00e1 o zaji\u0161t\u011bn\u00ed rodiny, ale z\u00e1rove\u0148 kontinu\u00e1ln\u011b chod\u00ed do pr\u00e1ce, m\u00e1 sv\u00e9 kon\u00ed\u010dky, p\u0159\u00e1tele a \u017eena kv\u016fli d\u011btem z\u016fstane st\u00e1t. Ne proto, \u017ee by cht\u011bla, ale mnoho v\u011bc\u00ed jej\u00ed p\u0159ischne automaticky, proto\u017ee se to n\u011bjak bere, \u017ee \u00faloha \u017eeny je b\u00fdt matka. Chv\u00edli to vydr\u017e\u00ed a jak d\u011bti rostou, u\u017e ani mo\u017en\u00e1 nem\u00e1 odvahu vr\u00e1tit se zp\u011bt do sv\u011bta. Mo\u017en\u00e1 ze strachu z naru\u0161en\u00ed mate\u0159sk\u00e9 role, kterou spl\u0148ovala dob\u0159e a vlastn\u011b ani nem\u00e1 s\u00edlu v\u011bci m\u011bnit, proto\u017ee nem\u00e1 tu podporu, jakou pot\u0159ebuje. Nemluv\u00edm o \u017een\u00e1ch, kter\u00e9 ji\u017e jinou roli m\u00edt necht\u011bj\u00ed, proto\u017ee jim to tak vyhovuje. Ale to je tak\u00e9 k zamy\u0161len\u00ed, jestli je to opravdu tak.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Podle m\u011b nen\u00ed nic kr\u00e1sn\u011bj\u0161\u00edho, ne\u017e kdy\u017e se ka\u017ed\u00fd z partner\u016f m\u016f\u017ee realizovat v tom, co ho napl\u0148uje, \u017ee m\u016f\u017ee m\u00edt sv\u016fj \u010das a \u00fakoly v rodin\u011b se jednodu\u0161e st\u0159\u00eddaj\u00ed a spoluvytv\u00e1\u0159ej\u00ed p\u0159eje prost\u0159ed\u00ed. J\u00e1, nap\u0159\u00edklad, kdy\u017e je t\u0159eba, operoval \u010di usp\u00edm d\u011bti, r\u00e1d va\u0159\u00edm a v\u00edm b\u00fdt s d\u011btmi t\u00fdden s\u00e1m, dokud je man\u017eelka na slu\u017eebn\u00ed cest\u011b. Man\u017eelka je tak\u00e9 zcela samostatn\u00e1, kdy\u017e jsem pry\u010d j\u00e1. Podstatn\u00e9 je, aby ka\u017ed\u00fd z partner\u016f m\u011bl prostor r\u016fst, \u017e\u00edt a budovat sv\u016fj vlastn\u00ed potenci\u00e1l tolik, kolik pot\u0159ebuje, ale z\u00e1rove\u0148 i rovnov\u00e1hu tak, aby to vyhovovalo ob\u011bma.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Ve filmu byl Michael ide\u00e1ln\u00edm otcem, kter\u00fd m\u011bl skv\u011blou pr\u00e1ci a doma byl dokonal\u00fdm a p\u0159ehnan\u011b pe\u010dliv\u00fdm man\u017eelem. A\u017e to p\u0159i\u0161lo do momentu, \u017ee dokonalost partnera a hlavy rodiny je irituj\u00edc\u00ed a ned\u00e1v\u00e1 prostor tomu druh\u00e9mu. Ze sam\u00e9 velk\u00e9 l\u00e1sky Alice vlastn\u011b nedovolil d\u00fdchat, b\u00fdt sebou a d\u011blat chyby. P\u0159eb\u00edral za ni i takov\u00e9 trivi\u00e1ln\u00ed v\u011bci, jako je vy\u0159e\u0161en\u00ed d\u011btsk\u00e9 h\u00e1dky. Tato v\u011bta od Alice mluv\u00ed za v\u0161e: „Alespo\u0148 jednou \u0159ekni, \u017ee n\u011bco nev\u00ed\u0161 \u2026“. N\u011bkte\u0159\u00ed mu\u017ei se stav\u00ed do role, \u017ee v\u017edy v\u0161echno v\u011bd\u00ed a na v\u0161echno maj\u00ed odpov\u011b\u010f. A jaksi neberou, \u017ee nemus\u00ed b\u00fdt spr\u00e1vn\u00e1 a v\u016fbec, ale v\u016fbec to nemus\u00ed b\u00fdt tak, jak to vid\u00ed oni. J\u00e1 s\u00e1m se st\u00e1le u\u010d\u00edm, \u017ee moje pravda nen\u00ed pravda, ale jen m\u016fj n\u00e1zor a pravda je v\u017edy n\u011bkde uprost\u0159ed.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

When a man loves a \u017eena. Zn\u00e1te tento film? Kr\u00e1sn\u00fd, \u017ee? Krom\u011b my\u0161lenky filmu pro m\u011b p\u011bkn\u00fd i prost\u0159ed\u00edm, kde se odehr\u00e1v\u00e1. Ulice m\u011bsta San Francisco, kter\u00e9 m\u00e1m velmi r\u00e1d, nejklikat\u011bj\u0161\u00ed ulice na sv\u011bt\u011b, most Golden Gate, star\u00e1 tramvaj \u010di kr\u00e1sn\u00e9 parky. Je\u0161t\u011b si chv\u00edli posn\u00edvam o cestov\u00e1n\u00ed, ale u\u017e si p\u0159eji sv\u011bt, ve kter\u00e9m […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":991,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"tdm_status":"","tdm_grid_status":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-990","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-rady-a-navody"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/tydenikobydleni.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/990","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/tydenikobydleni.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/tydenikobydleni.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tydenikobydleni.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tydenikobydleni.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=990"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/tydenikobydleni.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/990\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tydenikobydleni.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/991"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/tydenikobydleni.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=990"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tydenikobydleni.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=990"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tydenikobydleni.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=990"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}