{"id":973,"date":"2021-08-09T13:26:08","date_gmt":"2021-08-09T11:26:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/tydenikobydleni.cz\/?p=973"},"modified":"2021-08-09T13:26:09","modified_gmt":"2021-08-09T11:26:09","slug":"muz-s-drakem-v-erbu","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/tydenikobydleni.cz\/?p=973","title":{"rendered":"Mu\u017e s drakem v erbu"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

U\u017e od d\u011btstv\u00ed jsem v\u011bd\u011bl l\u00e9pe zapadnout do spole\u010dnosti \u017een, \u010di d\u00edvek ne\u017e mu\u017e\u016f. Jejich sv\u011bt mi p\u0159i\u0161el takov\u00fd citliv\u011bj\u0161\u00ed. Ani nev\u00edm v\u016f\u010di \u010demu. Snad v\u016f\u010di mn\u011b. Nebo to byla \u017eensk\u00e1 autenti\u010dnost, kter\u00e1 mi p\u0159ipadala skute\u010dn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed ne\u017e to, co jsem vid\u011bl na mu\u017e\u00edch, chlapc\u00edch kolem m\u011b?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Vyrostl jsem v mu\u017ee a kdy\u017e za mnou p\u0159i\u0161la parta man\u017eelek m\u00fdch k\u00e1mo\u0161\u016f, \u017ee jestli nezorganizuje\u0161 n\u011bjak\u00e9 setk\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed chlap\u016f, tak jsem byl zd\u011b\u0161en. Co ??? Pouze chlapi? Jste se snad \u2026
6 let jsem se tr\u00e1pil, ne\u017e jsem vy\u0161el u\u010dili\u0161t\u011b. 6 dlouh\u00fdch let v \u010dist\u011b chlapeck\u00e9 t\u0159\u00edd\u011b. To nechci za\u017e\u00edt u\u017e nikdy v\u00edc.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Jen\u017ee, sta\u0159ec, \u0159eknu ti, v 2013-tom na Slovensko zav\u00edtali z USA poprv\u00e9 moji k\u00e1mo\u0161i z „Bratrstva ze stodoly“, o kter\u00e9m jsem psal u\u017e v p\u0159ede\u0161l\u00e9m \u010dl\u00e1nku. Tam se v\u0161e oto\u010dilo. Poprv\u00e9 v \u017eivot\u011b jsem vid\u011bl autentick\u00fdch mu\u017e\u016f, chlapc\u016f a otc\u016f. V\u016fn\u011b divok\u00fdch mustang\u016f vstoupila do m\u00fdch nozder, prolet\u011bla pl\u00edcemi a usadila se v srdci.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Masky versus Draci<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Po konferenci jsme se za\u010dali, parta chlap\u016f, setk\u00e1vat u m\u011b v nakl\u00e1n\u011bjte. Pajta je lok\u00e1ln\u00ed v\u00fdraz pro stodolu. Je sice mal\u00e1, \u0161pinav\u00e1 a zahltil n\u00e1\u0159ad\u00edm a \u010dinkami, ale i tak v n\u00ed ka\u017ed\u00fd na\u0161el sv\u00e9 m\u00edsto. Intelektu\u00e1lov\u00e9, bagrista, violista, veterin\u00e1\u0159i, in\u017een\u00fd\u0159i, mist\u0159i, konspir\u00e1to\u0159i, rabij\u00e1ci \u2026 No prost\u011b chlapi. Z mostu do prosta jsme sko\u010dili po hlav\u011b do up\u0159\u00edmnosti a u\u017e jsem nic v\u00edc nepot\u0159eboval.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Za\u010d\u00edn\u00e1m pro\u017e\u00edvat, \u017ee b\u00fdt mu\u017eem je skv\u011bl\u00e9. B\u00fdt mezi mu\u017ei je esenci\u00e1ln\u00ed. P\u0159ijmout se je d\u011bsiv\u00e9. Za\u010dal jsem vid\u011bt vlastn\u00ed masky a kulturn\u00ed fale\u0161nosti, kter\u00e9 jsme si my, chlapi, na\u010dapali na na\u0161e nevym\u00e1chan\u00e9 tlamy. Co se objev\u00ed, kdy\u017e je slo\u017e\u00edme?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1.Maska – jemn\u00fd uzav\u0159en\u00fd chlapec<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Je to zvl\u00e1\u0161tn\u00ed, ale jakoby mu\u017ei hr\u00e1li jednu z pok\u0159iven\u00fdch rol\u00ed. Toto je prvn\u00ed z nich. Mu\u017e, kter\u00fd p\u016fsob\u00ed jemn\u011b, snad i citliv\u011b. Je tak „citliv\u00fd“, \u017ee se t\u011b\u017eko otev\u00edr\u00e1 a neust\u00e1le se sna\u017e\u00ed o sm\u00edr, kompromis a aby byly v souladu s vizu\u00e1ln\u00edm mo\u017enost\u00ed v\u0161ichni \u0161\u0165astn\u00ed. P\u0159itom mu ale jde jen o to, aby ho lid\u00e9 p\u0159ijali a naplnili jeho nenapln\u011bn\u00e9 citov\u00e9 n\u00e1doby. Nezn\u00e1 svou hodnotu, boj\u00ed se p\u0159ijmout sm\u011brov\u00e1n\u00ed, kter\u00e9 je ulo\u017eeno v jeho srdci, a tak hled\u00e1 sv\u00e9 potvrzen\u00ed a sm\u011brov\u00e1n\u00ed u druh\u00fdch lid\u00ed. Pokud by ho tam nedostal, ztr\u00e1c\u00ed p\u016fdu pod nohama a zd\u00e1nliv\u00fd smysl \u017eivota. Pe\u0165o o tom psal v \u010dl\u00e1nku „Rad\u011bji mil\u00fd nebo dobr\u00fd chlap?“.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

  1. Maska – siln\u00fd drs\u0148\u00e1k<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    Tento je zvl\u00e1\u0161tn\u00ed a v dne\u0161n\u00ed spole\u010dnosti m\u00e9n\u011b obl\u00edben\u00fd. Nep\u0159\u00edstupn\u00fd, drsn\u00fd, hardcorer, s jednoduch\u00fdm slovn\u00edkem. Od nikoho nic nepot\u0159ebuje a vysta\u010d\u00ed si s\u00e1m. Ale \u010dasto je p\u0159ekvapiv\u011b ochotn\u00fd pomoci, a\u017e se z n\u011bj uk\u00e1\u017ee celkem mil\u00fd tvor. Nikdy v\u0161ak neotev\u0159e sv\u00e9 srdce, nebo\u0165 je je\u0161t\u011b citliv\u011bj\u0161\u00ed ne\u017e „jemn\u00fd uzav\u0159en\u00fd chlapec“.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Tyto dv\u011b masky se n\u00e1m lep\u00ed na obli\u010deje a to tak p\u0159ilehle, a\u017e jim v\u011b\u0159\u00edme, \u017ee jsou na\u0161\u00edm skute\u010dn\u00fdm zevn\u011bj\u0161kem a pozd\u011bji i vnit\u0159kem. Kdy\u017e jsme s partou m\u00fdch chlap\u016f za\u010dali masky odkl\u00e1dat, uk\u00e1zalo se, \u017ee nakonec jsme docela jin\u00ed. St\u00e1li jsme p\u0159ed sebou naz\u00ed a p\u0159ekvapen\u00ed. Jak bychom svl\u00e9kli skafandry a uk\u00e1zalo se, kdo z n\u00e1s je \u010dlov\u011bk a kdo opice. Nebo l\u00e9pe \u0159e\u010deno, kdo je drakobijec a kdo mu\u017e \u017eij\u00edc\u00ed s Draky.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Drakobijci<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    V\u011bt\u0161ina „jemn\u00fdch uzav\u0159en\u00fdch chlapc\u016f“ se po odlo\u017een\u00ed masek uk\u00e1zala jako Drakobijci. Udatn\u00ed lordi a kr\u00e1lov\u00e9, s draky v erbech, to aby nezapomn\u011bli na boje, kter\u00fdm \u010del\u00ed. U\u0161lechtil\u00ed a s autentick\u00fdm citem pro vzne\u0161en\u00e9 ide\u00e1ly a c\u00edle. Inovativn\u00ed, chyt\u0159\u00ed, vytrval\u00ed a geni\u00e1ln\u00ed. P\u0159itom schopni se cel\u00e9 hodiny hr\u00e1t s d\u011btmi, ps\u00e1t b\u00e1sn\u011b a zp\u00edvat p\u00edsn\u011b. Milovat \u017eenu a rozdm\u00fdchat teplo domova.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Mu\u017ei \u017eij\u00edc\u00ed s Draky<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Toto jsou trochu v\u011bt\u0161\u00ed exoti. Divo\u0161i a barba\u0159i. \u017dij\u00edc\u00ed mezi draky, dobr\u00fdmi i \u0161patn\u00fdmi. I kdy\u017e n\u011bco jako dobr\u00fd a \u0161patn\u00fd drak nen\u00ed. Je jen drak a drak d\u011bl\u00e1, na co byl ur\u010den. Mu\u017e schopn\u00fd s takov\u00fdmi draky \u017e\u00edt je autentick\u00fd, siln\u00fd zevnit\u0159 ven. Um\u00ed poslouchat cel\u00e9 hodiny a mluvit, kdy\u017e je to nutn\u00e9. V\u0161e se ale dozv\u00ed\u0161 z v\u00fdrazu jeho tv\u00e1\u0159e. Nikdy nel\u017ee, nikdy nepodv\u00e1d\u00ed, nehraje hru, ani d\u017eentlmenskou. M\u00e1 v\u0161ak srdce schopn\u00e9 zachra\u0148ovat zran\u011bn\u00fdch hrdin\u016f, o\u0161et\u0159it r\u00e1nu i nep\u0159\u00edteli, v\u0161e odpustit, v\u0161e doufat, nikoho nezahanb\u00ed a let\u011bt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Cit zevnit\u0159 a ohe\u0148 z venku<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    A tak tam stoj\u00edme naz\u00ed a hled\u00edme si tv\u00e1\u0159\u00ed v\u016f\u010di na sv\u00e9 p\u0159irozenosti. Nikdo u\u017e nen\u00ed „jemn\u00fd chlapec“ ani „siln\u00fd drs\u0148\u00e1k“. Z\u016fstaly jen mu\u017ei, jejich draci a j\u00e1. Stoj\u00edm jako p\u0159ed zrcadlem a tou\u017e\u00edm se schovat, proto\u017ee pokud to neud\u011bl\u00e1m, uk\u00e1\u017ee se, kdo jsem j\u00e1. J\u00e1 se v\u0161ak Draka boj\u00edm. Nechci ho p\u0159ijmout, kou\u0161e a smrd\u00ed. Pl\u00e1\u010du. Nejprve od strachu, pak ze zoufalstv\u00ed a nakonec ze srdce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \"\"<\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n

    Nechci, aby to zn\u011blo jako n\u011bjak\u00fd epick\u00fd manifest na mu\u017eskou identitu, ale na konci dne bylo v m\u00e9m nitru epick\u00e9 v\u0161echno. Nem\u00e1m na vysv\u011btlen\u00ed jin\u00e1 slova, ne\u017e slova p\u0159\u00edb\u011bh\u016f. Tak po stalet\u00ed d\u011bdov\u00e9 p\u0159en\u00e1\u0161ely moudrost na vnuky a otcov\u00e9 p\u0159ed\u00e1vali sv\u00e9 \u0161t\u00edty synem. Zkropen\u00e9 slzami a krv\u00ed. Z nitra slzami, aby nezapomn\u011bli na cit a zvenku krv\u00ed, proto\u017ee st\u00e1li jako hradby p\u0159ed sv\u00fdmi domovy a nepustili plienite\u013ea dovnit\u0159.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Amen, nesetkal jsem je\u0161t\u011b mu\u017ee, kter\u00fd by nebyl drakobijec nebo Mu\u017e \u017eij\u00edc\u00ed s Draky. A tak asi i j\u00e1 budu jeden z nich. Vyt\u0159ese toho zbab\u011blce z gau\u010de, obl\u00e9knu mu brn\u011bn\u00ed a p\u016fjdu hledat Drak\u016f.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    U\u017e od d\u011btstv\u00ed jsem v\u011bd\u011bl l\u00e9pe zapadnout do spole\u010dnosti \u017een, \u010di d\u00edvek ne\u017e mu\u017e\u016f. Jejich sv\u011bt mi p\u0159i\u0161el takov\u00fd citliv\u011bj\u0161\u00ed. Ani nev\u00edm v\u016f\u010di \u010demu. Snad v\u016f\u010di mn\u011b. Nebo to byla \u017eensk\u00e1 autenti\u010dnost, kter\u00e1 mi p\u0159ipadala skute\u010dn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed ne\u017e to, co jsem vid\u011bl na mu\u017e\u00edch, chlapc\u00edch kolem m\u011b? Vyrostl jsem v mu\u017ee a kdy\u017e za mnou p\u0159i\u0161la […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":974,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"tdm_status":"","tdm_grid_status":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-973","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-rady-a-navody"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/tydenikobydleni.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/973","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/tydenikobydleni.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/tydenikobydleni.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tydenikobydleni.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tydenikobydleni.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=973"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/tydenikobydleni.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/973\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tydenikobydleni.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/974"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/tydenikobydleni.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=973"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tydenikobydleni.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=973"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tydenikobydleni.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=973"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}