{"id":1002,"date":"2021-08-09T14:11:37","date_gmt":"2021-08-09T12:11:37","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/tydenikobydleni.cz\/?p=1002"},"modified":"2021-08-09T14:11:38","modified_gmt":"2021-08-09T12:11:38","slug":"vlcice","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/tydenikobydleni.cz\/?p=1002","title":{"rendered":"Vl\u010dice"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

„Ale jak to spolu souvis\u00ed?“ zeptal se bezradn\u011b m\u016fj mu\u017e, kdy\u017e jsem se mu sna\u017eila vysv\u011btlit, jak to, \u017ee se c\u00edt\u00edm b\u00fdt na v\u00fdchovu na\u0161ich d\u011bt\u00ed sama, ovliv\u0148uje n\u00e1\u0161 partnersk\u00fd vztah. V obli\u010deji se mu zra\u010dila ot\u00e1zka: „Pro\u010d m\u00edchat hru\u0161ky s jablky ?!“, no ovl\u00e1dl se.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

„Ale v\u017edy\u0165 d\u011bti jsou d\u011bti a my jsme my!“ a \u010dekal, co \u0159eknu. „J\u00e1 nem\u00e1m \u0161ufl\u00edkov\u00fd mozek! V m\u00e9m sv\u011bt\u011b v\u0161echno se v\u0161\u00edm souvis\u00ed! “ odsekla jsem podr\u00e1\u017ed\u011bn\u011b.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ticho, kr\u00e1tk\u00fd pohled na m\u00e9ho mu\u017ee, z o\u010d\u00ed mu \u010dtu: „Pro\u010d pr\u00e1v\u011b j\u00e1 ?!“. A je po debat\u011b. Na\u0161t\u011bst\u00ed ne na dlouho. Pokra\u010duje o p\u00e1r hodin pozd\u011bji a nese se ji\u017e v \u00fapln\u011b jin\u00e9m duchu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ano, pokud byste se pod\u00edvali do m\u00e9 hlavy, opravdu tam nenajdete \u017e\u00e1dn\u00e9 krabi\u010dky ani \u0161upl\u00ed\u010dky, ani \u017e\u00e1dn\u00fd jin\u00fd n\u00e1bytek. Mysl\u00edm to samoz\u0159ejm\u011b obrazn\u011b. A nenapad\u00e1 mi ani \u017e\u00e1dn\u00fd jin\u00fd ekvivalent, kter\u00fd by nejl\u00e9pe vystihoval, jak to tam asi vypad\u00e1. No p\u0159izn\u00e1v\u00e1m, \u017ee ob\u010das by se mi n\u011bco takov\u00e9ho se\u0161lo. Pamatuji si, kdy\u017e jsem jako d\u00edt\u011b p\u0159i\u0161la k l\u00e9ka\u0159ce a ve\u0161la do p\u0159eds\u00edn\u011b ambulance, kde m\u011b u\u017e v\u00edtala sest\u0159i\u010dka. Ta zpravidla ne\u0159ekla v\u00edce ne\u017e 4 slova: „Dobr\u00fd den! Rok, jm\u00e9no? “ N\u00e1sledoval sk\u0159\u00edpaj\u00edc\u00ed zvuk kolejni\u010dek t\u011b\u017ek\u00e9 ocelov\u00e9 z\u00e1suvky se zdravotn\u00edmi kartami. P\u00e1r sekund a ta spr\u00e1vn\u00e1 karta byla v m\u00fdch rukou. Jak\u00fd po\u0159\u00e1dek, kolik\u00e1t\u00fd syst\u00e9m! Hej, to je ono! Nedo\u0159e\u0161en\u00fd konflikt s man\u017eelem? \u017d\u00e1dn\u00fd probl\u00e9m! \u0160up s n\u00edm do takov\u00e9 z\u00e1suvky, v\u017edy\u0165 i tak bude nejbl\u00ed\u017ee t\u0159i dny pracovn\u011b odcestov\u00e1n\u00edm. Vyt\u00e1hneme, pak jednou, kdy\u017e to bude aktu\u00e1ln\u00ed a do\u0159e\u0161\u00edme. Do t\u00e9 doby se budeme tv\u00e1\u0159it, jako by se nechumelilo. Minim\u00e1ln\u011b bych m\u011bla v takov\u00fdch chv\u00edl\u00edch klidn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed sp\u00e1nek. No nem\u00e1m to tak. Nem\u00e1m to zas ani hor\u0161\u00ed, ale ani l\u00e9pe, jen prost\u011b jinak.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nech\u00e1pejte m\u011b \u0161patn\u011b. Neznamen\u00e1 to, \u017ee m\u00e1m v hlav\u011b pr\u00e1zdno. V\u011b\u0159te mi, d\u011bje se tam toho hodn\u011b. Nap\u0159\u00edklad: my \u017eeny (netvrd\u00edm, \u017ee v\u0161echny) \u010dasto sv\u00e1d\u00edme boj mezi t\u00edm, co chceme my a co se od n\u00e1s o\u010dek\u00e1v\u00e1. N\u011bkdy je dost vy\u010derp\u00e1vaj\u00edc\u00ed \u010delit tlaku okol\u00ed a nesklouznout do napl\u0148ov\u00e1n\u00ed p\u0159edstav, kter\u00e9 maj\u00ed o n\u00e1s ti druz\u00ed, proto\u017ee pot\u0159ebujeme c\u00edtit p\u0159ijet\u00ed. \u010casto si zp\u016fsobujeme bolest t\u00edm, \u017ee se srovn\u00e1v\u00e1me s jin\u00fdmi \u017eenami. N\u011bkdy se ztr\u00e1c\u00edme ve v\u00edru napl\u0148ov\u00e1n\u00ed pot\u0159eb jin\u00fdch a zapom\u00edn\u00e1me na ty sv\u00e9. Pt\u00e1me se: Jsem dost dobr\u00e1? Jsem dost p\u011bkn\u00e1? Jsem dost chytr\u00e1? Jsem dobr\u00e1 m\u00e1ma? Jsem dobr\u00e1 man\u017eelka, dcera, nev\u011bsta \u2026? Sta\u010d\u00ed to? Nem\u011bla bych d\u011blat v\u00edc? M\u00e1 moje snaha n\u011bjak\u00fd smysl? V\u0161\u00edm\u00e1 si to v\u016fbec n\u011bkdo? Jak\u00e9 m\u00edsto m\u00e1m d\u00e1t sv\u00fdm emoc\u00edm, abych nebyla pova\u017eov\u00e1na za mim\u00f3za, ale p\u0159i tom z\u016fstala sama sebou a z\u016fstala autentick\u00e1 ve sv\u00e9m pro\u017e\u00edv\u00e1n\u00ed? Co kdy\u017e se nadobro izoloval od toho, co m\u00e1m r\u00e1da, co m\u011b napl\u0148uje, pro co m\u00e1m nad\u0161en\u00ed a v\u00e1\u0161e\u0148 jen proto, abych „zapadla“? Jak\u00fd prostor d\u00e1t p\u0159i rozhodov\u00e1n\u00ed intuici, abych neschytala n\u00e1lepku, \u017ee jsem m\u00e1lo racion\u00e1ln\u00ed? Jak zach\u00e1zet s tak velk\u00fdm mno\u017estv\u00edm informac\u00ed? Kterou mo\u017enost vybrat a bude to ta spr\u00e1vn\u00e1?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mnoho ot\u00e1zek, mno\u017estv\u00ed podn\u011bt\u016f a tak m\u00e1lo \u010dasu \u2026 a zde u\u017e rad\u011bji skon\u010d\u00edm. V z\u00e1vislosti na tom, v jak\u00e9 \u017eivotn\u00ed f\u00e1zi se nach\u00e1z\u00edme, n\u011bkter\u00e1 t\u00e9mata a ot\u00e1zky blednou, jin\u00e9 vystupuj\u00ed do pop\u0159ed\u00ed v\u00edce nebo p\u0159ib\u00fdvaj\u00ed \u00fapln\u00e9 nov\u00e9ho.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tak, a to je tak rychl\u00fd stru\u010dn\u00fd exkurz do m\u00e9 hlavy. Ne\u0159\u00edk\u00e1m, \u017ee v\u0161echny to tak m\u00e1me. No, j\u00e1 tedy ur\u010dit\u011b. A s takovou hlavou – kde v\u0161e souvis\u00ed se v\u0161\u00edm – si j\u00e1 vesele chod\u00edm po sv\u011bt\u011b. Ve v\u011bt\u0161in\u011b p\u0159\u00edpad\u016f v\u00edm, co s t\u00edm. Um\u00edm si uklidit a ud\u011blat jasno v tom, co se se mnou d\u011bje, co pr\u00e1v\u011b pot\u0159ebuji a co opravdu chci. Za p\u0159edpokladu, \u017ee m\u00e1m na to \u010das, prostor a alespo\u0148 tro\u0161ku energie. V\u00edm, \u017ee v prvn\u00ed \u0159ad\u011b to m\u00e1 b\u00fdt moje poctiv\u00e1 vnit\u0159n\u00ed a v\u011bdom\u00e1 pr\u00e1ce, jej\u00edm\u017e v\u00fdsledkem bude vnit\u0159n\u00ed klid a mo\u017en\u00e1 je\u0161t\u011b co to nav\u00edc. No, v\u00edme b\u00fdt v\u016f\u010di v\u00e1m, mu\u017e\u016fm, n\u011bkdy dost nef\u00e9r. N\u011bkdy \u010dek\u00e1me, \u017ee to vy\u0159e\u0161\u00edte za n\u00e1s. \u017de budete v\u011bd\u011bt, co pot\u0159ebujeme, i kdy\u017e my samy jsme na to zat\u00edm je\u0161t\u011b nep\u0159i\u0161ly. A pak v\u00e1s obvi\u0148ujeme, \u017ee je to va\u0161e chyba, \u017ee nejsme \u0161\u0165astn\u00e9 a spokojen\u00e9. A to opravdu nen\u00ed f\u00e9r. Mo\u017en\u00e1 se pt\u00e1te: „Tak, co ty \u017eeny vlastn\u011b cht\u011bj\u00ed? Jak se v tom v\u0161em m\u00e1me vyznat? „<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Jednou jsem se spolu s d\u011btmi vracela autem z b\u011b\u017en\u00e9 dopoledn\u00ed proch\u00e1zky. T\u0159i d\u011bti p\u0159ipoutan\u00e9 v autoseda\u010dk\u00e1ch, hladov\u00e9, uzimen\u00e9 a unaven\u00e9. Ka\u017ed\u00e9 jedno m\u011blo pot\u0159ebu sv\u00fdm zp\u016fsobem d\u00e1t najevo, jak jinak by si p\u0159edstavovalo danou situaci. A do toho p\u0159ede mnou p\u0159echod s chodcem a jeho odhodl\u00e1n\u00ed p\u0159ej\u00edt na druhou stranu. Och, ti chodci, p\u0159esn\u011b nyn\u00ed se musel rozhodnout proj\u00edt p\u0159es cestu! Ne dost, \u017ee na p\u0159ede\u0161l\u00fdch t\u0159ech semaforech jsem st\u00e1la na \u010derven\u00e9! Brzd\u00edm, zastavuji, on proch\u00e1z\u00ed. Uprost\u0159ed cesty se oto\u010d\u00ed a pod\u00edv\u00e1 se na m\u011b. Ne jen tak ledajak\u00fd, ledabyle, ale do o\u010d\u00ed a d\u00e1 si p\u0159i tom z\u00e1le\u017eet. Usm\u011bje se a kyvn\u00e9 na znak, \u017ee d\u011bkuje. Jsem jako omr\u00e1\u010den\u00e1, automaticky se usm\u011bju nazp\u011bt \u2026 a\u017e m\u00e1m hus\u00ed k\u016f\u017ei. Jak mil\u00e9! Jak dob\u0159e to padlo! Nic, jen oby\u010dejn\u00fd lidsk\u00fd \u00fasm\u011bv a d\u011bkovn\u00e9 gesto.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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St\u00e1le to m\u00e1m v pam\u011bti. Netrvalo dlouho a pochopila jsem, pro\u010d m\u011b to tak vzalo. Je to jedna z v\u011bc\u00ed, kterou pot\u0159ebuji. Aby m\u011b n\u011bkdo setkal, aby m\u011b vid\u011bl, abys m\u011b v\u0161iml \u2026 a \u0159ekl jednoduch\u00e9 a up\u0159\u00edmn\u00e9 D\u011bkuji! Vid\u00edm t\u011b a vid\u00edm i to v\u0161echno, co d\u011bl\u00e1\u0161. Chci, abys v\u011bd\u011bla, \u017ee to vid\u00edm. A d\u011bl\u00e1\u0161 to sakra dob\u0159e! D\u011bkuji!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

„Ale jak to spolu souvis\u00ed?“ zeptal se bezradn\u011b m\u016fj mu\u017e, kdy\u017e jsem se mu sna\u017eila vysv\u011btlit, jak to, \u017ee se c\u00edt\u00edm b\u00fdt na v\u00fdchovu na\u0161ich d\u011bt\u00ed sama, ovliv\u0148uje n\u00e1\u0161 partnersk\u00fd vztah. V obli\u010deji se mu zra\u010dila ot\u00e1zka: „Pro\u010d m\u00edchat hru\u0161ky s jablky ?!“, no ovl\u00e1dl se. „Ale v\u017edy\u0165 d\u011bti jsou d\u011bti a my jsme my!“ […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1003,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"tdm_status":"","tdm_grid_status":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1002","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-rady-a-navody"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/tydenikobydleni.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1002","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/tydenikobydleni.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/tydenikobydleni.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tydenikobydleni.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tydenikobydleni.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1002"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/tydenikobydleni.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1002\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tydenikobydleni.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/1003"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/tydenikobydleni.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1002"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tydenikobydleni.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1002"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tydenikobydleni.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1002"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}